Friday, October 18, 2013

LOVE LANGUAGES

According to author, Gary Chapman,  there are five of them. He says to understand them is the secret to love that lasts.

Sounds extremely helpful doesn't it?

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What are these five different languages?

Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

WORDS of AFFIRMATION
A character with this love language will show love--and receive love--by saying it out loud. This character won't 'feel' loved unless the other person says it, writes it as a note, or expresses love via some form of words.
 
QUALITY TIME
This is the character (typically female) that is always at the other for 'spending time with me'. They need eye-to-eye contact.
 
RECEIVING GIFTS
This one is easy to pick ... they never show up at a party or dinner without something in hand, usually gift wrapped. A character whose love language is gifts will keep mementos, and delights in surprising the other person with gifts. 

ACTS of SERVICE
She is the first to offer to clean up after a church pot luck. He has changed the oil in her car faithfully for 20 years and held down a steady job...because he loves her.

 PHYSICAL TOUCH
This is apparently the most common love language to men, usually expressed through sex or frequent touch--a hand to a shoulder, or sitting close on the couch. 
PROBLEM: The wife who just wants a hug vs. the husband who always buys flowers. 

 
 

1 comment:

Jenny O'Hagan said...

A great reminder that we both need to understand our own love languages and those of ones we love - and be prepared to learn another language for the sake of love.